Myths vs. Facts
Misinformation about sexual violence can contribute to shame, blame, and misunderstanding. Knowing the facts can help us respond with greater understanding and support.
“My Clothing Caused It.”
False.
Clothing never causes sexual violence. Responsibility belongs to the person who chooses to harm or violate someone else. A person can experience sexual violence regardless of what they are wearing.
“Boys Can't Be Victims.”
False.
People of any gender can experience sexual violence. Boys and men can be victims, and their experiences deserve to be taken seriously. Stereotypes about masculinity can sometimes make it harder for boys to talk about what happened or ask for help.
“False Reports Are Common.”
False.
False reports of sexual assault are not common. Research consistently finds that intentionally false reports are a small minority of reported cases. Concerns about false reports should not be used to dismiss or disbelieve someone who comes forward.
“Kids Would tell Someone.”
Not necessarily.
Children may not tell anyone because they are afraid, confused, ashamed, or worried about getting in trouble. Grooming and manipulation can also make disclosure more difficult. Not telling someone does not mean the abuse did not happen.
“You Have to Resist.”
False.
A person does not have to physically resist for their experience to be valid. Fear and trauma can cause automatic responses like freezing. Not resisting does not mean someone agreed to what was happening.
“Silence Means Consent.”
False.
Silence is not consent. Someone may be scared, pressed, or unsure how to react. Consent should be freely given and can be withdrawn at any time.
“It Must Be a Stranger.”
False.
Sexual violence is often committed by someone the person knows, including dating partners, friends, or family members. Knowing someone does not give them permission to cross boundaries.
“It's the Victim's Fault If Drunk.”
False.
A person's alcohol or drug use does not make them responsible for someone else's decision to harm them. Intoxication also affects a person's ability to give consent.
Remember
Myths can make survivors question themselves. Learning the facts helps create a culture where people are treated with respect, compassion, and understanding.